Posted by
GeorgeBruno on Friday, August 26, 2011 1:20:54 AM
Go ahead, choose. Choose now. Don't just sit there, make a decision.
We've heard statements like these a million times.
How many of us flounder because we have "irons in the fire" or "unfinished train sets in the basement"?
Get rid of them and move on.
You're saying, "I know, I know, someday I'm going to .....(fill-in-the-blank)"
Waiting for a return phone call or someone to get back to you? YOU call them back.
Ball in their court? For the decisive person, that is no longer an acceptable explanation.
Be bold. Make your decision. Even if the decision is to do nothing. Not everything requires explicit action. Impulsive people have to be careful of this one. Not everything can be fixed now. Proper discernment will tell you if something can be fixed at all.
Have a history of impulsiveness and making quick decisions? OK, let me make that clear ...that is NOT decisiveness. That is exactly what I said. Impulsiveness. There is a huge difference.
Have a nagging issue? Take responsibilty for it. Make a decision. You are the one letting it nag you.
Need to make a phone call? DO IT!
Relationship no longer working? Make a decision. Be bold.
There is no such thing as a irreversible decison. You can always change things or do a U-turn ...if you so desire.
Some decisions require a reasonable amount of thought, contemplation, and weighing things out.
Is it emotionally derived? Then do this ...and don't be guilty of impulsiveness. Get a blank paper. Do not go on your computer.
I loved it when goals and motivational expert, Earl Nightingale, use to say "Get a yellow legal pad and a ball point pen". Times have changed a little, but not when it comes to decisiveness in your life. There are some things an iPad just isn't good for.
Draw a line down the middle of the paper and start writing. Plusses on one side, minuses on the other. I believe this takes the dilemma from emotional ...to rational. It takes it out of the head and makes it visual. Do the math. The answer will reveal itself to you on the paper. It will be screaming the answer at you with just the amount of ink on the paper. In the same way that darkness disappears when light is present, doubts and indecision flee in the presence of rational inspection. Notice I didnt say introspection. That is too emotional and possibly one of the reasons for your floundering.
The result?
You will be happy you were decisive. It is a muscle you may not be used to using, but it does get easier. It hurts a little at first. You waste less time, make better choices about people, business, partnerships, and even the junk on the shelf or that stack of papers that is just waiting for you to throw it out.
Decisiveness is a beautiful thing.
Nothing can stand in the way of a man or woman who has their mind made up.
Let that person be you!